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Things only fall in place in the midst of peace of mind

For Inner harmony, let go of everything that disrupts your peace of mind.

Abusers thrive because they rob the abused of genuine peace of mind. This once left me in a form of mental imbalance, a sort of chaos that disrupts inner harmony.

Abusers are all around us. Sometimes they are sexual, many times they are in a position of authority or have some upper hand.

They try to make you feel – and sometimes succeed – that they have a hold on you. That empowering yourself will hurt you. When you succumb to this fear, it keeps them in their upper position.

Understand that an abuser is afraid because they need you in a subjective position. The only way to ensure they keep you in that subjective position is to keep you from empowering yourself.

Its perhaps the worst form of toxicity. And it exists in every society. Sometimes I feel I can’t get away from the toxicity. Yet I know I am my only limitation and I have to get unstuck.

One of the challenges to creativity is the chaos that exists in our minds. A good abuser will create triggers that worsen your mental chaos. That’s why you need peace of mind to find the right solutions and to plan strategic moves. A good abuser will try to keep you from finding solutions. They will therefore try to confuse you from finding peace of mind.

Begin by disconnecting from your own mental chaos. This is the only way to empower yourself. You must let go of everything that disrupts your peace of mind. Decide mentally to close and move on from every source of anxiety. Give up whatever you must, to restore your peace of mind.

Then disconnect from the chaos on the outside. Ideas will start to flow. Solutions will begin to rain down.

Try Education

This is one of the most empowering tools. An abuser might begin by denying you knowledge. Dig for knowledge. Learn as much as possible and as much as is available to you. If there is a debate, research both sides. If there it’s a loved practice or skill, learn it.

In today’s world, knowledge is validated through certification. So if you can certify yourself, do. If you cannot, no knowledge is lost. If you keep learning, someday perhaps only a short test will certify you. Or you might even be honoured. Just prepare yourself for opportunity.

Try Exposure

Opportunity is a factor of exposure. Exposure is a unique form of education, and an abuser will try very hard to deny you of it. Without exposure, opportunity will often elude you. A good abuser will try to isolate you. Isolation, when used as a weapon is extremely successful.

It is especially successful to an abuser, not only because it denies you ample opportunity to emancipate yourself – even mentally – but because it prevents you from exposing your abuser. Abusers thrive also on your isolation. Determine not to limit yourself to the shores of your abuser.

Try Art

Fight to get knowledge, education and exposure. Baby steps and you start to see some growth. Record your growth. Focus on the positive aspects of your growth and keep aiming higher.

Keep your record somewhere for others to learn from. If you cannot write it, sing it, draw it or dance it. The beauty of art is it thrives on inspiration. You will find a muse in places you never imagined. Share your art. Somehow let the world feel your inner peace. In sharing, you will find joy and emancipation.

Everything Will Be Fine

Finally, try therapy. Sometimes, we all need a hand.

Pay attention to your peace disruptors and an abuser will have no continued hold on you. Let go of everything that disrupts your peace of mind. First find your peace. In your moment of inner peace, you will see a way forward. Let no one distract you from it. Let nothing take away your inner peace.