Joinsupermoms

I’m worried about how even now, while more people choose to be single, single shaming persists. But you can conquer single shaming by embracing the solo life.

Singleness comprises several temporary states. States of bliss, states of fierceness, states of peace, states of loneliness. People act like to be single is only to be lonely. Like alone is all you are when you are single.

It leaves the impression that couples and people with partners or friends don’t get lonely. What bothers me is that loneliness is treated like a permanent state, a bad thing that you should never feel. And that spills over to attitudes towards singleness. No one wants to be lonely, so no one wants to be single.

I have lived a different experience and found that I am most productive when I have reflected, alone. I am more creative when I am alone, and I value relationships when I get to spend time alone. Of course, too much of everything is bad. So extreme loneliness is certainly harmful.

Embracing loneliness as a temporary state rather than a permanent condition can transform it into a valuable experience. Use solitude for self-improvement, reflection, and creative pursuits, that way, loneliness turns into an opportunity for positive change and personal development.

Yet a desperate flight from loneliness often leads us into the arms of trauma. So, I’m going to talk about the benefits to loneliness and how you should embrace it.

Self-Reflection and Personal Growth

Alone time allows for introspection and a better understanding of your thoughts, feelings, and desires. You can reflect on your life and identify areas for personal growth and improvement.

You can develop a clearer sense of direction and purpose.

Solitude can provide the mental space needed to assess your life goals and priorities.

Meaningful Relationships

Being alone means you get to choose who your closest associates are, not based on the preferences of a partner. Loneliness helps you appreciate the value of your relationships and the people in your life, so thar you’re really close to those that matter most to you.

This can motivate you to nurture and strengthen only necessary connections. You become more selective about how and with whom you spend your time. You realize which relationships are meaningful and which may be draining or unfulfilling – and you can filter them out.

According to Time, one study shows that single people “care about being mentally and physically healthy and fostering strong family relationships. Sex and dating were among participants’ least important priorities”.

If you’re single, it’s a great time to reposition, restructure and reinforce. Reposition yourself for your best life, restructure your plans to suit your best life and reinforce your individuality. Conquer single shaming. The only ones that should be ashamed are those that live the life of others.